Dating & Relationships Manifesto Marriage Podcasts

Episode 9: Getting Clear on Sexpectations and Expectations in Long-Term Relationships

Here’s one thing we know to be true: there is no universal road map for navigating a long-term relationship. From keeping the sex spark alive, to solid communication, to finding ways to evolve together, you have to find what works for you.

That said, based on the amazing feedback we got on last week’s dating episode, we decided to leverage our long-term relationships experience and do a deeper dive in that area. While we only represent two opinions, we’ve got over 25 years experience between the two of us.

We think you’ll love this episode if you are in a long-term relationship or aspiring to be and are looking for insights on what it takes to make love last for the long haul.

Brooke, an unrelenting romantic, speaks candidly about how she and her husband have kept their good thing going for almost two decades. Clara asks a lot of tough questions about what really matters in the long-term and how you can continue to see your partner as a whole person. We also talk about how to foster your own resilience to better weather the really rough and rocky times.

In this episode we cover:

  • How to communicate about sex and keep it going when it’s the last thing on your mind
  • How you can start to figure out if someone is “the one” and how that might change through the seasons of your life
  • Building a bedrock of communication and the subsequent shorthand of long-term relationships
  • Maintaining intimacy in conversation long after the days where you stayed up all night talking
  • How to fight with an end in sight and curb the bickering habit
  • The power of making time to talk and expressing your love (hint: it’s free)
  • Getting clear on the partnership, from finances, to household duties, to child-rearing to not having to be another person’s “everything”

We also revisit some big themes we just can’t stop talking about like:

  • How our manifesto can be a real guiding force when it comes to the big stuff
  • Getting into your own life because being happy is what makes you hot
  • Putting down your device and being wholly present in the relationship

Show Notes

Brooke’s blog posts:

On “not leaving” in marriage

The Fight Diet

How to express your love (writing a love letter)

Production note: It took us two conversations across a few different locations to cover all this, so you might hear some changes in the background.

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    February 20, 2016 at 10:08 pm

    Hi Clara and Brooke! I have found your podcast and I am enjoying it so much. I listen to it while I’m running or making dinner for my two little ones. I shared your dating podcast with my younger sister and she really enjoyed it. Do you consider podcast requests of particular topics? Thank you! xo

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      Brooke Braun
      February 22, 2016 at 7:35 pm

      Hi Kim, So glad you (and your sister) are enjoying the show! We would definitely be interested in hearing some of the topics you would like to hear about. Why don’t you shoot us an email at: lifelatelypodcast at and we’ll chat about them. Thanks!

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    February 28, 2016 at 11:41 pm

    I was in quite a mood when I decided I needed to change my focus and listen to a podcast. This episode totally brought my mood around- thanks ladies! I think all of my girlfriends could find something to relate to in this episode, so I’ll be letting them know about it (I already told one friend). It’s great to hear acknowledgement of what is ‘normal’. Brooke, I love the idea of your rant notebook.

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